The Five Love Languages Assessment
Discover How You Give And Receive Love
ADAPTED FROM THE COLOR CODE BY GARY CHAPMAN
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Different people with different personalities express love in different ways. Therefore, if you want to
give and receive love most effectively, you've got to learn to speak the right language. The following
assessment will help you determine when you feel the most loved by other people, and how you naturally
show love to others.
Of the two choices, circle the letter of the option you most prefer and fits you best currently.
1.
I like to receive notes of affirmation.
A
I like to be hugged.
E
2.
I like to spend one-on-one time with people who are close to me.
B
I feel loved when someone gives me practical help.
D
3.
I like it when people give me gifts.
C
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones.
B
4.
I feel loved when people do things to help me.
D
I feel loved when people touch me.
E
5.
I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts his or her arm around me.
E
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love or admire.
C
6.
I like to go places with friends and loved ones.
B
I like to high-five or hold hands with people who are special to me.
E
7.
Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
C
I feel loved when people affirm me.
E
8.
I like to sit close to people whom I enjoy being around.
E
I like for people to tell me I am beautiful/handsome.
A
9.
I like to spend time with friends and loved ones.
B
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones.
C
10.
Words of acceptance are important to me.
A
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.
D
11.
I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones.
B
I like it when kind words are spoken to me.
A
12.
What someone does affects me more than what he or she says.
D
Hugs make me feel connected and valued.
E
13.
I value praise and try to avoid criticism.
A
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift.
C
14.
I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together.
B
I feel closer to friends and loved ones when they touch me often.
E
15.
I like for people to compliment my achievements.
A
I know people love me when they do things for me that they don’t enjoy doing.
D
16.
I like to be touched as friends and loved ones walk by.
E
I like it when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I am saying.
B
